Variety is expressed in almost every major part of our existence – Human race: check. Language spoken: check. Food preferences: check. Little wonder the same logic applies to the diverse qualities people seek for in their intending spouse. Let’s take a stab at some of these qualities we would tag the ‘FOUR Bs’.
BEAUTY
Nothing stimulates the brain much, pleases the eyes more and stations the body most than a beauty that commands unrivaled appeal and attention. For some, beauty is more or less the solely desirable quality.
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Picture By Life Moments Media. Hope Muzunze. |
They really could care less if only what the lady can do in the kitchen is boil egg so long as she is physically attractive. Bayo, 32, a Contractor, says: “For me, I can’t marry someone who is not beautiful at all. It’s her beauty that keeps me from looking at other women.” Likewise Maureen, 24, an Interior Decorator: “I just have this thing for cute guys. I simply find them irresistible most times. And there is no way I would love to end up with anything less.”
BRAINS
For all it’s worth, intellectual individuals or nerds seem to be a strong preference for some persons.
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Probably their ability to solve any imaginable equation in their sleep or because they have a brighter prospect to be successful; whichever reason, they are always first choice on some people’s list. Emeka, 29, an Underwriter, shares his thoughts: “I find it really indispensable to marry a woman with brains. It helps the husband a lot if the wife can contribute to problem-solving in the home. Unfortunately, most ladies out there have nothing upstairs.”
BELIEFS
Curiously, for some, just sharing similar beliefs suffices as their major requirement in spousal choice.
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Hope Muzunze, Godwin and Gamu Tekenende. |
BEHAVIOUR
Safe to say, most individuals would go for good behaviour over physical appearance among others any day.
The thought of marrying a spouse with an untoward character is enough for them to take ill. Ayo, 28, a Data Analyst, concurs similarly: “I’d rather remain single than marry a woman who wouldn’t give me peace of mind however pretty she might be. A beautiful woman may attract the eyes but a virtuous woman would always steal the heart. And this is the kind of woman I want, pretty or ugly.”
Which of the quality(s) happens to be your requirement(s) for a spousal choice? Kindly share your thoughts by dropping a comment. –
By Kalejaye Abayomi