"Planning the wedding is a trial run for your future marriage,". "The things you battle about now are clues to where you're going to have trouble in the future." Here's what lies behind the most common prewedding blowouts.




Family
"His family's guest list is getting longer and longer every day, and they're not even chipping in for the wedding."

"Always be on the lookout for conflicts like these to be about 'hidden issues.

Groom Involvement
"He doesn't even seem to care about the color of the table linens—does he even care about me?"

Don't give up on including him, though. "Find out what he is interested in and encourage him to participate in that part,"

Money
"You're spending big bucks on your dress; he wants to spend some of that cash to go far away for Honeymoon".
This needs to be an equitable deal. At least the honeymoon is something you'll both enjoy. Sit down with him, like two adults, and work out the finances of the wedding together.

Religion
"Why isn't he making an effort to understand my traditions?"

Our advise first being sure that the groom understands what is expected of him—he may not even know that you want him to learn about your traditions.We suggests that this topic may even bring the two of you closer and says, "If handled calmly and sensitively, a discussion like this can be an opportunity to get to know yourself and your partner better just by getting clear about what these traditions mean and say about each other."

Territory
"Why does he think we should be married in Harare just because we live here? We need to be in South Africa with my family. His relatives can fly."