When you hear of a couple calling off their wedding, your brain jumps to something dramatic. Maybe the long-lost lover of one came back, or one of them confessed something. Perhaps one admitted to cheating, or to being in love with the other person’s best friend. But not every canceled wedding looks like a scene in a soap opera. Sometimes, couples just call off the wedding because planning the wedding is causing too many arguments! That themselves will not handle, just go for counselling.
You’ll notice some couples call off the wedding but stay together—it wasn’t their relationship that was the issue, it was the big day. They realized they were happier before they got engaged, so why not just go back to the way things were? If you’re just getting started on planning your big day, then be aware: here is why couples fight so much while planning their weddings.
They want the money to go different places
One person thinks a large chunk of money should go to the perfect venue; another thinks it should go to the best DJ. Then one person thinks they should invest in an open bar, while the other would rather put that money towards the fanciest catering company.
One wants to keep it small; one doesn’t
One person envisions a giant bash with everyone they’ve ever known, and the other just wants a small gathering of the closest friends and family. The first person feels like their dreams are being smashed, while the second person feels like a bunch of strangers may witness one of their most important milestones.
Making decisions without each other
Tension is high, and deciding on something as small as the colors of the flowers on the tables without the other’s consent can cause a blowout fight. Of course, they aren’t fighting about the flowers, but rather the overall feeling that one person takes more ownership over this wedding.
They want the money to go different places
One person thinks a large chunk of money should go to the perfect venue; another thinks it should go to the best DJ. Then one person thinks they should invest in an open bar, while the other would rather put that money towards the fanciest catering company.
One wants to keep it small; one doesn’t
One person envisions a giant bash with everyone they’ve ever known, and the other just wants a small gathering of the closest friends and family. The first person feels like their dreams are being smashed, while the second person feels like a bunch of strangers may witness one of their most important milestones.
Making decisions without each other
Tension is high, and deciding on something as small as the colors of the flowers on the tables without the other’s consent can cause a blowout fight. Of course, they aren’t fighting about the flowers, but rather the overall feeling that one person takes more ownership over this wedding.
A lack of sympathy for each other’s stress
Both people feel like they’re under a tremendous amount of stress and rather than try to find ways to relax each other, they end up playing the, “I’m more stressed out than you game.” This leaves them feeling distant.
Having it near his family or hers
“Why should it be near your family? I have more family so it makes sense to fly a smaller amount of group to the location.” “Oh yeah? Well your family is wealthier, so they can afford to fly to the destination.”
Conflicting religions/traditions
This is, naturally, a big one. Even if neither the bride nor groom are particularly attached to having their religion or culture represented at the wedding, they know they could destroy family ties if they aren’t represented.
