Things That I Wish Someone Told Me Before I Planned My Wedding

It can be helpful to learn from someone who has been there. Your wedding day is supposed to be one of the best days of your life. But the wedding planning itself? Not so much. For a detail-obsessed person like me, the planning may more closely resemble hell than heaven, especially if you're on a modest budget. Because, when you have money to burn, you can pay somebody else - a professional somebody - to carry the weight of all the research, decision-making, coordination and execution on their shoulders while you daydream.


Unfortunately, most of us aren't that lucky. But that doesn't mean your big day can't be lovely, memorable, and romantic. Here are just a few things to keep in mind during the planning process - pearls of wisdom I wish I'd known before I said "yes" to that whole wedding-planning mess.

Get a point person.
If you can't afford a wedding planner, appoint an organized, capable volunteer, such as a friend or family member, to make sure nothing slips through the cracks. Give them a checklist. There are so many moving parts that details that might be important to you can easily be overlooked by vendors.

The venue matters.
You may get a great off-season deal at a venue, but don't sacrifice comfort for frugality: If your guests are freezing or sweating, you'll never live it down.

You and your partner's needs come first.
Enlist the help of family and friends for grunt work (stuffing invites, getting quotes, etc.), but make clear that all final decisions are yours and your partner's. Otherwise, you'll have too many opinionated cooks in the kitchen.

Don't be afraid to ask for samples.
Ask for samples from vendors as much as possible, especially food, videography, photography and floral arrangements. 

Figure out what matters to you.
It may seem like everything needs to be done ASAP but prioritize based on your preferences. For us, the music, seating chart, and ambiance were more important than party favors and welcome bags, which we saved for last.

Hire a videographer.
Hiring a videographer in addition to a photographer can be costly, but video catches the emotions of the day in a way that photos cannot.

You get to pick the music but try to include everyone.
You want guests to have a great time but this is your day, and you need to enjoy it too. So even if your family is a little bit country and you're more rock 'n' roll, find a middle ground.

Likewise, don't just pick tunes that your friends will like unless you want kids and older folks to feel unwelcome on the dance floor.

Remember that everyone is rooting for you.
If you're the anxious type, you may feel panicked about standing up in front of all the people who matter most in your life. But that's just the thing: they matter to you, and you matter to them. 

They want to see you do well and be happy, so, even if you stumble over your vows, they're rooting for you and not laughing at you. 

You don't need to include everyone.
Don't feel pressured to have a giant bridal party to fit all your friends. It's not a contest. If a simpler solution presents itself - say, just including siblings and their spouses - that could save everyone a lot of grief. You can always take your close friends aside, give them special mementos and express how much they mean to you.

Remember this is your day so only do what you're comfortable with.
If you're on a tight budget, foregoing extras like an engagement shoot and a second dress for the reception can shave off a few dollars. 

The same is true for ancillary events; an engagement party, a bachelor party, a bachelorette party, a bridal shower, a welcome dinner, a rehearsal dinner, and a farewell brunch entail more planning and spending on your behalf and more obligations for your guests. Choose wisely.Don't do anything you don't want to.

That last point is crucial. So many brides and grooms - myself included - feel pressured by tradition, etiquette, and family desires when wedding planning. Remember that this is a day to celebrate your one-of-a-kind relationship and bond. So why have a cookie-cutter wedding?

On your big day, you do you - and let the chips (and complaints) fall where they may.
Zim Photography Online
We are an outstanding company that can provide you with professional cameramen, who can shoot high-quality photos at any location of your choice, for an affordable, fixed hourly price. Zimbabwe Photography
Chat with WhatsApp